Attitude, Arrogance or nature!!

Attitude, it has lot to do with an individual and it do have lot of impact on others too. I always try to understand difference between a good attitude or a bad attitude. Most of things are perception based and how an individual treat you. I have seen people they keep saying i'm like this only. when you post a question "why" they say the same answer. I don't buy that. It has got to do something with what has happened in your life, in the past and that made you to think that way. Some time we try to avoid things because in past we had some bad experience and that changed our attitude. If it is by birth you are like that then it would have got notice very easily and that would have know to everyone. I have seen people very careless about keeping there wardrobe maintained and keeping them self untidy, i must say and they thing sometime it is very cool. people wearing same shirt over and over again as if that's the only shirt they have. Lot of people say they are lazy to reply you on text or attend your call. Some people live in this world but there mind is somewhere else.

It may be called as an attitude they way you dressed up, you talk, you carry your self and your behavior with others. If they find it right they would say it is good attitude but the moment they feel that you are not nice to them they say it you have attitude problem. Sometime your attitude may be right but it would look arrogance to others. Reason being is the expectation we have from that person and the preset notion we create in our mind that this is how he is suppose to react to me. When i say this is how he is suppose to react to me i mean it and if he doesn't that you say you are being arrogant. For you it is your nature as you say I'm like this only but for the person who gets the treatment would say you have attitude problem or you being arrogant. I'm just trying to relate this three things attitude which you claim, nature that you say by birth you are like this only and arrogance when someone else doesn't find it fit.

I will take one thing at a time. it is your nature, if it is by birth then everyone would know it. So, if it is your nature then it would never hurt people around you then why does people who know you well tell you that your attitude has changed, from your point you would never feel that it has got changed but people who are around you would definitely can catch that. Suppose you use to be super active person and always ready to take on things in life as they come and suddenly something happen which you never thought would happen with you that would change your attitude. you may find it apt but people would catch that and would tell you that you have changed. I can quote another from different point of you. suppose some people say they are lazy at attending calls or reverting back on text. Do this same people would do the same thing if they have someone important in life. I think 99% they would never. In fact they would wait to hear from that person. So, my observation says that it has got to do more with your approach to your life. Having positive attitude and keeping others happy to an extent which you feel feasible create not only right attitude, but it would avoid other problems as well. Most people who find you that you are like this would never think of contacting you because you create your importance by touching others life but not by say that you are lazy at this.

Attitude can be change if you have right meaning and approach in life. If someone say that I'm like this. I would never buy that for simple reason because we are born on a plain slate, it would be us who would give meaning to our life and it would never be our attitude. We built our attitude, our attitude never built us. So, no matter you had one rough day it would never change the person in you. Sometime our wrong attitude or way of approaching life would have cascading impact of our life. We may never accept that or see that but it does. I believe people around are the biggest assets and if they say that you have changed, at least think for a minute and try to recollect how much truth in that and if you find even 0.01% then something has really happened and that 0.01% would turn into 100% you never know. So, if the change is good you then it would bring lot of positive vibes and energy. Believe me you will feel that once you are in right direction. Our attitude is what we have which bring close to people and it is our biggest enemy in losing them.


“The longer I live, the more I realize the impact of attitude on life. Attitude, to me, is more important than facts. It is more important than the past, the education, the money, than circumstances, than failure, than successes, than what other people think or say or do. It is more important than appearance, giftedness or skill. It will make or break a company... a church... a home. The remarkable thing is we have a choice everyday regarding the attitude we will embrace for that day. We cannot change our past... we cannot change the fact that people will act in a certain way. We cannot change the inevitable. The only thing we can do is play on the one string we have, and that is our attitude. I am convinced that life is 10% what happens to me and 90% of how I react to it. And so it is with you... we are in charge of our Attitudes.”
~Charles R. Swindoll